By Evelyn Wallmann
For months we planned and waited for you,
Our hearts were filled with love, and that God knew.
The nursery was ready, and we picked a name;
We could hardly wait till you came.
But then when the time did finally arrive,
It was not God’s plan for you to remain alive.
Our hearts were saddened to give you away,
But we know God picked an angel that day.
So now our memories of you are so few,
But then God knew what was best for you.
And now as we slowly go on our way,
We’re looking forward to seeing our angel someday.
*Compassionate Friends in Tracy, CA: Jan 833-6503 or Loretta 835-2794, 541-5390
*Empty Arms: Sandy 824-4547
*PAL (Parents Accepting Loss): Rozie 369-8920, 369-7930 firstname.lastname@example.org
*Infants remembered in Silence, Inc
*www.nationalshare.org (Infant Loss Support)
Empty Cradle, Broken Heart by Deborah Davis
When a Baby Dies by Rana Limbo
Silent Cradle by Judy Morrow
SIDS Survival Guide by Joani Horchler, Robin Morris
Grieving the Child I Never Knew by Kathe Wunnenberg
(A Christian resource)
For Him: (to assist partners in understanding him):
When a Man Faces Grief by James Miller, Thomas Golden
Swallowed by a Snake, the Gift of the Masculine Side of Healing by Thomas Golden
When is it my turn to cry? I'm not sure society or my upbringing will allow me a time to really cry, unafraid of the reaction and repercussion that might follow. I must be strong, I must support my wife because I am a man. I must be the cornerstone of our family because society says so, my family says so, and, until I can reverse my learned nature, I say so.- A FATHER, IN DEFRAIN ET AL. 1991, 112
For Family and Friends of Loved Ones who have
How You Can Help When a Baby Dies by Rana Limbo
The Death of a Child – The Grief of the Parents: A Lifetime Journey
When a Baby Dies: A Handbook for Healing and Helping
There is no relationship like that of parent and child. It is unique and special...The bond between parent and child is so powerful that its strength endures time, distance, and strife. No loss is as significant as the loss of a child...On the death of a child, a parent feels less than whole - ARNOLD AND GEMMA 1994, 25-27